Why Fourth of July is So Painful for Me, A Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse

Here I sit on Fourth of July, almost one year after leaving my narcissistic ex boyfriend. I think back to three years ago to the exact day, where we spent the day together drinking at a bar, learning as much as we could about each other, and enjoying the presence of one another - or …

Why the Narcissist Can’t Love You Back

My heart has been ripped out of my chest, stomped on, and broken into a billion pieces. If you're the survivor of narcissistic abuse, you can relate. Never have I felt such pain in my life, and I'm still trying to comprehend it. Throughout my research on narcissistic personality disorder (we'll just refer to these …

My Victim Impact Statement to My Narcissistic Ex Boyfriend

I recently created a Twitter account as part of my healing journey to connect with other survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence. I tweeted, "A letter to my ex narcissistic abusive boyfriend," which was an altered version of my victim impact statement I read in court, and have gotten a lot of messages and …

How I (an Empath) Defeated a Narcissist at His Own Game

One week ago I realized something. I defeated my narcissistic ex boyfriend. While this wasn't what I set out to do, I still accomplished it by standing up for myself in a world that doesn't want to hear it or deal with it. A world that's not understanding to victims/survivors of domestic violence and/or narcissistic …

How the Outside World is Ignorant to Domestic Violence Victims and Survivors

As I sit here and write this, I'm tearing up. It's been almost 10 months since I filed a restraining order and fled my abusive boyfriend, who also has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Ever since that day I left the courthouse with a restraining order I've tried to begin healing and better my life. But …

What Happened in Court When My Ex Plead Guilty to Domestic Violence Charges

I waited for this day for seven months. Well, actually more than that if you start counting from the day I first realized I was in an abusive relationship. Let me tell you, this wasn't easy by any means. With no constitutional rights in the state the charges were being filed, I found myself in …

Self Care After Narcissistic Abuse

As I slowly recover from the wounds of the narcissistic abuse and domestic violence (and I mean SLOWLY), I've started to realize how important self care is. If you're like me, you're having a hard time jumping back into the life you can hardly remember before the narcissistic abuse or domestic violence took place. Things, …

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) After Narcissistic Abuse

I started this blog around narcissistic abuse and domestic violence because journaling about it was hurting my hand. I have way too many thoughts that I'm processing that I can't possibly write them all down. The trauma us survivors experience and the post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is real. When I used to hear PTSD …

4 Truths the Narcissist Doesn’t Want You to Know

If you're currently in a relationship with a narcissist, your mind is most likely in a fog and you may note be able to come to terms with these truths about how you're being treated and the things your narcissistic boyfriend doesn't want you to know. In fact, I escaped my narcissistic abusive relationship four …

A Letter to My Ex Narcissistic Abusive Boyfriend

  *Please note: This is a slightly altered version of my victim impact statement I read at my ex boyfriend's sentencing in court. If you're in a similar situation, feel free to use anything from this victim impact statement as your own. Read an updated version of my victim impact statement here.  Dear G, Love …